Got a feed back from a friend few weeks back , asking to expatiate more on the sentence “… She is a NATION” (see https://daprenita.wordpress.com/2016/11/03/the-lady-and-the-gentleman/). Capitalizing it brought much attention to it, and of course, it is good to pay attention to that. The man Is a Nation as well. Nation in this context is Obviously not the dictionary meaning, more like a metaphor ,I will like to give it this meaning “a great subject” Yes! The lady is a Nation, I remember using this illustration, that, the building of a home is in the hand of the wife, how the children will grow into wonderful kids , it is in the hand of the wife, also know that single fathers can also raise wonderful kids too but that’s on a rare occasion, the children if still young will still need someone like a mother to take care of them, but here we are looking at the singular responsibility of the parents . You could attest to seeing a gentle husband with a wayward wife, how will the family look like?. There was a Nabal and an Abigail at a time, Nabal was an indifferent man, but he fortunately had a wise wife who prevented a situation that would have wiped off his whole lineage, this Abigail prevented this and also prevented another man from shedding blood and take law into his hands. God in the Holy Scriptures made it clear that “Homes are made by the wisdom of women” (GNB). A house can collapse if the woman there is not wise, everything that the world has become today started from the family, the man have his responsibilities, yet the woman’s responsibilities can’t be overemphasized, the home can’t be built without a lady, and if all the ladies in the world are wise, then the world can also be a better place. So, for her to be wise she must know this and set aside herself to grow to a wise lady, that’s why I said she is a nation because she plays a great role in the home and which afterwards affects the country. Here in Nigeria, especially in Yoruba land, it is believed that a good child belongs to the father, while the bad one to the mother, meanwhile, the same mother brought up these two children, the more reason why she must be strong enough to raise wonderful children, a bad child is the shame of his mother. Before they blame the father they would have blamed the mother, even though they both have their responsibility over the children and it is their fault if their children becomes wayward, however, the home needs a wise lady for the future of the kids, for the peace of her husband and for the betterment of the country. And she must know that becoming wise starts from NOW. A woman alone can’t build the home, we will later check the indispensable responsibility of the man as well in other to strike a balance.
Now let’s look at purpose of humanity.
PURPOSE OF HUMANITY
Humanity is made up of the male and the female. The utmost purpose of humanity is to help one another, help the family, help the society and the nation at large, irrespective of the gender. It is obvious that our society needs help, and in each individual is embedded a well of virtues that is enough or more than enough to make the world a better place. If there is a patient suffering from malaria, he needs the help of a physician, but if he is left there, he could die. The same goes for our environment, if the environment is denied of the help it needs, so many things will happen. We have been able to know what the two genders stands for. There comes a time in our environment when we give excuses, trying to dodge our God-given responsibilities, you hear people say “I can’t do that, it’s not what I do, it’s a work of a man, it’s a work of a woman”. There are several widows, widowers, single mothers and single fathers, orphans, motherless and fatherless babies. It is no surprise that despite the situations these ones finds themselves, many still do well, Orphans still make it in life, so why should you be nonchalant about life and giving up easily? A one time governor in a South-West State in Nigeria, Olagunsoye Oyinlola, whose parents died when at a tender age of nine still ended up a governor. This is not luck, neither is it an accident. We need to understand that no matter what circumstance of life is, there is still something great lying inside of you, storm can affect everything around you but you will have to choose not to allow storm to blow away the greatness in you. The fingers are not equal, so circumstance are not the same, some are born with silver spoon in their mouth, some are born into a poor family, being in a poor family doesn’t limit your greatness in life, one mysterious thing is that none of us chose the family we are, but we will have to choose what we will become . Opportunity is the hallmark of greatness, as poor or as rich as you are, there is one opportunity very close to you to make you rich or richer.
What I am saying in essence is you are born to help matters, there is a gap you are born to fill, when you choose to fill this gap, then you are fulfilling the purpose of humanity. Do not despise the days of little beginning, you might not be where you want to be but make sure you don’t remain on the same spot. Help yourself, help your family, help the society and help the nation. Looking aback from where we started this series (The lady and the gentleman , understanding my place, and purpose of humanity). It will be good to draw a link and a conclusion. The lady is to be a godly being who understands her nature and her role, the man Is a godly being who also must understands his responsibility and what he stands for, these two have different purpose for which they are made just like everyone on earth serves different purpose. The parts of a human body is a very suitable example, every parts serves differently but they work together to achieve a particular aim which is the health of the human body. The society needs these two characters. After knowing that we are two different people and understanding what we symbolize, it is also important for each to understand his/her place in order to discourage competition, God did not make them so they can compete, they are made to help one another, in the Church, in school, at work, in the family, in marriage and in the society. So, dear ladies and gentlemen, understand your place and don’t compare yourself with anyone either same sex or opposite sex, only compare yourself with who you really are, keep comparing yourself with your God-given purpose as you work it out daily until you attain your God-given purpose. When you understand your place, also don’t forget what the human purpose is, which is to help matter, to see to it that the world is living in harmony and peace, see to it that you are not causing pain to your fellow human. Some people today have understood their place, they know where they should be and they are there but they turned away from humanity and God and pleasing themselves. They no longer have human feeling, this thwart in thinking right has caused several leaders in the country to care less about the situations outside , greediness is now the order of the day. Dear Ladies and Gentlemen, a reward awaits you, whether you do good or otherwise. But it is wise to help matter and not make it worse, you will reap what you sow. No pain is small, pain is pain, don’t cause pain to others, you are made in God’s likeness, live your life that way.